How can I be better for you?

“Relationships thrive when needs are met and falter when they’re not.” - Gottman Institute

We don’t need to fully understand WHY our partner needs what they need in order to respect and appreciate it. It should matter to us because it matters to them!

I think a great monthly habit to get in to as a couple is to ask each other “How can I be better for you?” or “What shifts would you like for me to make in order to be a better partner for you?” This can be anything from “Please don’t leave your socks on the floor” to “I’d love to have more quality time with you.”

My husband’s most recent shift request for me… “I really want you to work on being on time.” 🤪

My Relationship Refresh Gift Box is now available on Amazon!

♥️Hey friends… Just wanted to share some news! 

After the release of my online course, I continued to think of fun ways to get in front of couples earlier in order to help them PREVENT relational cracks from occurring down the road and thus this idea was born.👇

I’ve recently partnered with a local Amazon distributor and I’m SO excited to share that my “Relationship Refresh Gift Box” is officially LIVE ON AMAZON! 🥳

Whether you are newly engaged, know someone who is or are looking for a gift that will make a splash in your own relationship - this unique gift box is for you! We’ve created a high quality care package full of charming gifts so you don’t have to! The Relationship Refresh Gift Box is perfect for an engagement, wedding/shower, anniversary, Valentine’s Day or a “just because” gift.

💟 We’ve also included a BONUS - Inside is a colorful insert packed with lighthearted relationship tips from me on how to build a lasting connection and a truly happy life together. Each thoughtful gift coordinates with a relational tip! How fun is that?! 💟

These clever gifts act as encouraging reminders around the house of how to love one another for years to come. This gift box includes a modern white planter (flower seeds and soil included), a refreshing scented candle, a classy gold prism frame, two custom bamboo chapsticks, two connecting key chains and a pink heart-shaped stress ball. Surprise your loved ones with a super fun yet impactful gift that is sure to stand out above the rest! 😍

Hopefully this is the first of many Relationship Refresh Gift Box products! 

Thanks SO much for your support. 🥰

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Happy Galentine’s Day!

I’m sure I’m not alone when I say that this “adulting” thing is much heavier than I imagined it would be when I was younger. I was one of those kids who could not WAIT to grow up! The older I’ve become, the more certain I am that I would without a doubt give my younger self a swift kick in the ass.

I have a close group of college friends who have been through two plus decades of adulting with me. We have walked hand in hand through the greatest of elated celebrations and the lowest of scary hardships. They make the heavy feel less crushing and the hope more hopeful. They are the exclamation points of my life and I am thankful to my core for them!

My late father-in-law lived by the mantra that “All you have at the end of your life are the relationships you’ve built.” He couldn’t have been more right, which is why I have always and will always ensure that the biggest investments in my life are in those relationships that mean the most. This group is that for me… a lifelong priority. Here’s to all the strong relationships out there that make life even sweeter!

💟 National Spouses Day! Woohoo! 💟

This past Wednesday was National Spouses Day!

I often remind my couples that in a healthy partnership you should be making each other’s lives easier, not harder. We signed up to be a team in life together and it’s our commitment to do all the things to make our person’s life better not worse, even when it’s not easy.

Cheers to all the spouses out there doing the work to be a true definition of a partner! Give your love an extra squeeze today and tell them why you are grateful for them. A small gesture can make a big impact! 🥰

Hit the reset button!

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After years of tracking the top issues couples face, I created five 10-12 minute modules covering them ALL along with easy to implement solutions.

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Sometimes all a relationship needs is a little refresher course!!! 😉

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Transparency is key!

Simply being consistently open about how we are feeling with one another gives us the peace of mind that we know right where our partner is within the relationship from day to day. Transparency feels safe because it eliminates assumptions and takes the guesswork out of relationships. It feels safe because it’s comforting to know we have the full story. 💗

Sharing is caring

“The most functional way to regulate difficult emotions in love relationships is to share them.”

-Sue Johnson

Why is it that we think our partner can read our mind? 🤔 No matter how long we are together or how deeply we know each other, this isn’t a fair expectation. Instead we can open the “window to our brain” and share our core thoughts/feelings versus the surface anger/frustration that comes after we assume our partner is purposely ignoring the emotions they don’t even realize we are having.

Seek to appreciate!

“We strengthen our romantic foundations every time we acknowledge our partner’s emotional needs.” - Dr. John Gottman

We don’t have to fully understand our partner’s emotional needs in order to appreciate them. Turn towards your partner in those moments, instead of away. Acknowledge their need and gently make space for it - therein lies a true opportunity for meaningful connection. Make the most of it! #betheirsafeplace

😡 Conflict is inevitable!

We aren’t going to avoid conflict all together within our relationships. Conflict can actually be beneficial. Say what? It’s true - if done in a healthy way, conflict can create a deeper understanding of your partner and therefore strengthen your connection and build intimacy. But we can’t forget to REPAIR! Repairing is essential in a healthy relationship. Many couples refrain from doing so because they simply “don’t know what to say” during or after a disagreement. Well here’s a little cheat sheet! Try one of these on for size from The Gottman Institute in your next couples quarrel.👇😍

*Repair attempts sound like:

-I see your point

-I love you

-Thank you for sharing this with me

-Can I take that back?

-I need your support right now

-Let me try again

-Can we take a break?

-I understand

-I really messed up, I can see my part in this